Add common_policy_traits - a subset of hash_policy_traits that can be shared between raw_hash_set and btree.

Also remove the transfer implementations from btree_set.h and flat_hash_set.h, which are equivalent to the default implementations.

Motivation: this will simplify upcoming changes related to trivial relocation.
PiperOrigin-RevId: 477493403
Change-Id: I75babef4c93dec3a8105f86c58af54199bb1ec9c