This commit includes the following changes:

* Don't provide make_copy_constructor for non-copyable container

make_copy_constructor currently fails for various stl containers (e.g.
std::vector, std::unordered_map, std::deque, etc.) when the container's
value type (e.g. the "T" or the std::pair<K,T> for a map) is
non-copyable.  This adds an override that, for types that look like
containers, also requires that the value_type be copyable.

* stl_bind.h: make bind_{vector,map} work for non-copy-constructible types

Most stl_bind modifiers require copying, so if the type isn't copy
constructible, we provide a read-only interface instead.

In practice, this means that if the type is non-copyable, it will be,
for all intents and purposes, read-only from the Python side (but
currently it simply fails to compile with such a container).

It is still possible for the caller to provide an interface manually
(by defining methods on the returned class_ object), but this isn't
something stl_bind can handle because the C++ code to construct values
is going to be highly dependent on the container value_type.

* stl_bind: copy only for arithmetic value types

For non-primitive types, we may well be copying some complex type, when
returning by reference is more appropriate.  This commit returns by
internal reference for all but basic arithmetic types.

* Return by reference whenever possible

Only if we definitely can't--i.e. std::vector<bool>--because v[i]
returns something that isn't a T& do we copy; for everything else, we
return by reference.

For the map case, we can always return by reference (at least for the
default stl map/unordered_map).