Fixes #738

The current check for conformability fails when given a 2D, 1xN or Nx1
input to a row-major or column-major, respectively, Eigen::Ref, leading
to a copy-required state in the type_caster, but this later failed
because the copy was also non-conformable because it had the same shape
and strides (because a 1xN or Nx1 is both F and C contiguous).

In such cases we can safely ignore the stride on the "1" dimension since
it'll never be used: only the "N" dimension stride needs to match the
Eigen::Ref stride, which both fixes the non-conformable copy problem,
but also avoids a copy entirely as long as the "N" dimension has a
compatible stride.