* Add frozenset, and allow it cast to std::set

For the reverse direction, std::set still casts to set. This is in concordance with the behavior for sequence containers, where e.g. tuple casts to std::vector but std::vector casts to list.

Extracted from #3886.

* Rename set_base to any_set to match Python C API

since this will be part of pybind11 public API

* PR: static_cast, anyset

* Add tests for frozenset

and rename anyset methods

* Remove frozenset default ctor, add tests

Making frozenset non-default constructible means that we need to adjust pyobject_caster to not require that its value is default constructible, by initializing value to a nil handle.  This also allows writing C++ functions taking anyset, and is arguably a performance improvement, since there is no need to allocate an object that will just be replaced by load.

Add some more tests, including anyset::empty, anyset::size, set::add and set::clear.

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* Add rationale to `pyobject_caster` default ctor

* Remove ineffectual protected: access control

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