* Avoid thread termination in scoped_released

Do not call `PyEval_RestoreThread()` from `~gil_scoped_release()` if python runtime is finalizing, as it will result in thread termination in Python runtime newer than 3.6, as documented in https://docs.python.org/3/c-api/init.html#c.PyEval_RestoreThread
Similarly do not call `PyThreadState_DeleteCurrent` from `~gil_scoped_acquire()` if runtime is finalizing.

Discovered while debugging PyTorch crash using Python-3.9 described in  https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/47776

* Simplify _Py_IsFinalizing() availability check

* Fix typo

* Add version agnostic `detail::finalization_guard()`

* Move `finalization_guard` to detail/common.h

And rename it to `is_finalizing`

* Move `is_finalizing()` back to pybind11.h

* Simplify `is_finalizing()` check

One should follow documentation rather than make any assumptions

* feat: disarm

* docs: fix comment

Co-authored-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>