* stl.h: propagate return value policies to type-specific casters

Return value policies for containers like those handled in in 'stl.h'
are currently broken.

The problem is that detail::return_value_policy_override<C>::policy()
always returns 'move' when given a non-pointer/reference type, e.g.
'std::vector<...>'.

This is sensible behavior for custom types that are exposed via
'py::class_<>', but it does not make sense for types that are handled by
other type casters (STL containers, Eigen matrices, etc.).

This commit changes the behavior so that
detail::return_value_policy_override only becomes active when the type
caster derives from type_caster_generic.

Furthermore, the override logic is called recursively in STL type
casters to enable key/value-specific behavior.