* Support free-threaded CPython (PEP 703)

Some additional locking is added in the free-threaded build when
`Py_GIL_DISABLED` is defined:

- Most accesses to internals are protected by a single mutex
- The registered_instances uses a striped lock to improve concurrency

Pybind11 modules can indicate support for running with the GIL disabled
by calling `set_gil_not_used()`.

* refactor: use PYBIND11_MODULE (#11)

Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>

* Address code review

* Suppress MSVC warning

* Changes from review

* style: pre-commit fixes

* `py::mod_gil_not_used()` suggestion.

* Update include/pybind11/pybind11.h

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