* add installation support for pkg-config dependency detection

pkg-config is a buildsystem-agnostic alternative to
`pybind11Config.cmake` that can be used from build systems other than
cmake.

Fixes #230

* tests: add test for pkg config

Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>

Co-authored-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>