With this test_class.cpp builds and even mostly runs, except
`test_multiple_instances_with_same_pointer`, which segfaults because it is
using a `unique_ptr` holder but `smart_holder` `type_caster`.

Also adding `static_assert`s to generate build errors for such situations,
but guarding with `#if 0` to first pivot to test_factory_constructors.cpp.

Introducing PYBIND11_USE_SMART_HOLDER_AS_DEFAULT macro (tested only undefined; there are many errors with the macro defined).

Unification of unique_ptr, unique_ptr_with_deleter code in smart_holder_poc.h. Leads to more fitting error messages. Enables use of unique_ptr<T, D> smart_holder_type_casters also for unique_ptr<T>.

Adding smart_holder_type_casters for unique_ptr with custom deleter. SEVERE CODE DUPLICATION. This commit is to establish a baseline for consolidating the unique_ptr code.

Giving up on idea to use legacy init_instance only if is_base_of<type_caster_generic, type_caster<T>. There are use cases in the wild that define both a custom type_caster and class_.

Moving get_local_load_function_ptr, init_instance_for_type to smart_holder_type_caster_class_hooks.
Expanding static_assert in py::type::handle_of<> to accommodate smart_holder_type_casters.

Moving define PYBIND11_SMART_HOLDER_TYPE_CASTERS(T) down in the file. NO functional changes. Preparation for follow-up work (to keep that diff smaller).

The user-facing macro is now PYBIND11_SMART_HOLDER_TYPE_CASTERS.

https://github.com/rwgk/rwgk_tbx/commit/a2c2f88174a30f5de80d7d26e0f77c7b60f5fb85

These tests are from experimenting, and for demonstrating UB in pybind11 multiple inheritance handling ("first_base"), to be fixed later.

Removing debugging comments (GET_STACK, GET_INT_STACK). cast.h is identical to current master again, pybind11.h only has the generic_type::initialize(..., &type_caster_generic::local_load) change.